Handling things that go wrong

Some teenagers will experiment with alcohol and may push the boundaries. They may feel peer pressure to drink too much too fast, with harmful consequences.

For others, there may be underlying reasons for drinking, such as depression and anxiety. Have a look at depression.org.nz for information on how to help someone with depression or anxiety.

Going to parties they’re not allowed to

Choose a good moment for both of you and tell them how you feel about what they’ve done, including your worries for their safety. Give them a chance to explain. Go back over the rules you agreed to and take action – such as a grounding which includes the following weekend.

Taking alcohol from you

Handle it just like any stealing within your family. Discuss what has happened. Follow through by taking suitable action like making your teenager pay for the alcohol taken.

Getting violent when drunk

You don’t need to put up with violence from anyone, even family members. If you can’t control the situation, call someone who can come quickly, like a friend or the police.

Vomiting continuously

Don’t leave your teenager alone. Lay them on their side in the recovery position. Monitor their breathing and heart rate and make sure their mouth is empty. Keep them warm. If there is no improvement, dial 111 for an ambulance.

Drunk and unconscious

Call 111 for an ambulance.

Finding help

If you need help and advice about your teens alcohol or drug problems, the Alcohol Drug Helpline can help – call 0800 787 797, visit their website, or free txt 8681 for confidential advice.